How ‘stacking the pain’ might be the key in helping your child

How ‘stacking the pain’ might be the key in helping your child

As a new mother, I have come to experience this even more so recently where we live in an era where we don’t want our child to experience, or ‘feel’ pain. Sometimes I think “if I could literally wrap him up in cotton wool he won’t feel pain,” of course I don’t, but the thought of him knowing, experience or feeling pain, pains me. However, this might be the very key in helping your child make the changes he/she needs in order to be happy and mindful of his/her actions.   You see, people in general do more to avoid pain than what they do to get pleasure. This is because we don’t like to ‘feel’ any type of pain what so ever, even if the pain is temporary and will get us the results we want to have. Think about it, we want to lose weight, yet we are feeling stressed and see chocolate in the cupboard that would go nicely with our coffee, we reach for the chocolate and think “one won’t hurt.” Yet if we eat that chocolate every day, or create a habit of eating chocolate to relieve stress, in time, we will feel the pain, but temporary we won’t. You see, the pain of NOT eating that chocolate in that moment, is greater than the pain of not losing weight in that moment. If we want lasting change then we have to create more pain around NOT getting the results we want. The reason why we enjoy that chocolate so much is because we have linked pleasure to eating it. We have linked neuro-associations...

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